Evanston/North Shore

Building Healthy Relationships

Building Healthy Relationships seeks to work towards stopping violence through early intervention. With integrated components for elementary, middle and high school, we help students build the social-emotional skills they need to treat one another with respect and dignity as they mature.

in elementary school...

... children are learning how to get along with others and manage their behavior in the classroom and on the playground. Incorporating games and role-playing, we work on self-awareness, self-management, relationship skills and responsible decision making, specifically:


  • understanding how someone else might feel and caring about it
  • learning to see other points of view


  • controlling impulses and developing positive communication skills

dealing with bullying

  • understanding the difference between bullying and conflict
  • learning assertiveness skills
  • being responsible as a bystander

emotion management

  • taking control of our own reactions
  • managing stress and learning to how to calm ourselves

The development of social emotional skills enhances the learning environment so that students are positioned both to do better academically and to treat one another with dignity and respect as they mature.

in middle school...

...relationships and social life in general become increasingly important. Building on the framework used in elementary school, we work with middle schoolers on skills that help them navigate their newfound desire for connection, exploring the following:

building a strong sense of self

  • recognizing positive qualities in ourselves and others
  • reducing stereotyping and labeling
  • laying the groundwork for recognizing what is unhealthy

peer pressure and problem-solving

  • recognizing negative and positive influences
  • intervening as a bystander

dealing with cyberbulling and gossip

  • recognizing and avoiding cyberbulling and gossip
  • learning how to respond when it occurs, both as a witness or bystander and as a target

By establishing healthy communication patterns, enabling the identification of negative behaviors, and learning to break the cycle and patterns of abuse, teenagers come to understand their roles and rights in relationships, addressing potential areas of conflict before real, long-term issues develop.

in high school...

...helping teens and young adults recognize what is healthy and harmful as they begin to engage in dating and intimate relationships is vital. In small group settings, we foster a safe environment where teens can share and discuss:

healthy and unhealthy relationships

  • recognizing the qualities of a caring relationship
  • identifying and avoiding harmful and abusive behavior
  • overcoming gender stereotypes

setting and honoring healthy boundaries

  • recognizing our own behavioral/sexual boundaries
  • honoring boundaries under pressure
  • healthy communication skills
  • learning to be assertive
  • handling strong emotions
  • caring for ourselves and our friends

what to do to be safe

  • who to go to with a problem
  • how to support a friend
  • how to access resources if necessary

A significant component of this effort is not only to provide information and education to young people, but also to administrators and teachers. Intimate partner and teen dating violence may happen outside of school, but these events and their effects are carried directly into the halls and classrooms.

Building Healthy Relationships addresses benchmarks in the Illinois Board of Education Learning Standards, which are based on research supporting the link between academic success and social emotional skills. In short, students who can solve problems, get along with others and make good choices do better academically.

With your support of this program, you are supporting student achievement and helping young people to break cycles of abuse and build safe, healthy relationships and violence-free futures.

If you are interested in learning more or would like to include Building Healthy Relationships programming in your school or community organization, contact our Program Director at 847-864-8445 ext. 112


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